Fighting Back The Fears You Face

Fear is crippling if you haven’t come face to face with that part of your struggles. It is the most fought battle that anybody can ever face in their lifetime.

As much as we can overcome other areas of life and bounce back quicker than before, fear, however, takes a lot more fighting and pushing back than ever before.

I have found a way around certain types of fears that might creep up every now and again. For instance, if I’m working on a new idea or project and I’m realizing that there’s so much noise in my thoughts about it failing, then I tell myself that I’ll do it regardless of that thought process, and I still move forward.

That I must say is my superpower for getting things done without the distractions of fear all around me. However, that’s me, and I know it may not be the same for others.

Fear may be crippling you from even stepping forward into your God-given destiny or assignments.

So I’m here to help you identify fear for what it is, and how to move forward regardless of how you feel. That’s the only way to be victorious in every area of your life.

If fear has been the determining factor in your life for the most part, then this is the blog post that will help you to overcome. Please feel free to add to my list or ask your questions or concerns below. I would be happy to help you!

“The best way to overcome the fears in your life is to identify them, then work in the opposite direction of whatever that fear dictates to you. “

Awareness of the presence of Fear is Key

Fear is a sneaky spirit. It likes to hide, unbeknownst to you, in places where you are more than capable of accomplishing greatness. It tends to show up in moments when you need to move to the next level of life, whether it’s buying a new home, applying for a new job, starting a new business opportunity, and so many other things.

It’s the biggest life hurdles and breakthroughs that welcome the most fear. If you haven’t realized that yet in your own life, then now you know.

This is why awareness of this sneaky spirit will help you to overcome so many obstacles you may have faced before or will face in the future.

Just observe for a moment when you have a big opportunity that you may have been trying to execute for a while. Let’s say you’re looking to purchase a new home. You found the perfect house that meets the criteria of everything you wanted in a home.

You are ready to purchase, and as you’re about to call the realtor to put in an offer on that house, you hear a subtle but distinct voice say, ‘You’re not going to get it,’ or ‘It’s a waste of time calling.’ All sorts of thoughts start popping up about potential issues with the home and the many excuses that arise just as you’re ready to pull the trigger.

That’s how fear works, and that’s how it prevents many of us from stepping forward and doing so much more with our lives.

If you were the person who was so aware of this subtle distraction in your mind, then I can attest that nothing will ever be impossible for you.

Fear is a dream killer. It has always been that way since the beginning of time, life, and society as we know it.

Unplugging from the chaos of fear

After awareness comes the unplugging from fear. When you identify that something has been stealing from you for the most part of your life, the next best thing to do is to unplug yourself from the chatter of fear.

Now you might be asking me, how do you do that? It’s simple! After identifying that it is present in a major decision, go against the grain. Do the opposite of fear. The less time you give fear any attention, the more it will flee from you. Anything you decide not to focus on has no place to rule or reign in your life.

Once you’re quick in identifying areas of fear, then it’s easier to navigate everything else that comes your way with ease.

For instance, consider that job you wanted to apply for, but didn’t because you kept hearing, ‘You’re not good enough,’ or ‘You’re not qualified enough,’ or ‘You’re going to be rejected.’ So many voices appear out of nowhere to discourage you.

That quick identification of fear in that moment and unplugging from it anyway and deciding, regardless of the outcome of the job opportunity, that you will apply anyway.

That is what fearless means when up against the odds of fear against you. You still made a decision to move forward regardless of the outcome. Those are the people in the world that are the most successful today.

Why? Because they worked completely opposite of fear and did the big steps regardless of the outcome or how they felt.

Which brings me to my next point.

Fear of Failure

The most fought-against fear of all time, I can imagine, must be the fear of failure. To me, that is the most defeating foe of all time.

Failure has an assignment that involves discouragement. It wants to not only tell you that you’re a failure if something didn’t happen for you, but it’s also there to completely cripple you for life.

That’s why it’s so important to be aware of fear in every area of your life. Let’s talk about the fear of failure and how you can successfully overcome this sneaky spirit as well.

The goal is to not see failure as a weakness but rather as a superpower. Failure is not the end of anything until you accept that defeat for what it is.

Failure, to me, is rather a re-route or a change in direction of a path you initially took and didn’t get the desired result. Does that mean you should quit?

Absolutely not! What if it meant taking another path instead of the one you were currently on? I see failure as a way of navigating life. For instance, if a business venture did not work out in my favor, should I give up my entrepreneurial endeavours?

No, it shouldn’t be the sole reason you choose to walk away from being an entrepreneur, knowing that for some of us, we have that gift deeply rooted in us.

We know the deepest longings for freedom and independence to do our own things. So that should also mean looking at what didn’t work and trying something else.

That’s also another way of defeating the fear of failure and still moving forward regardless of the initial outcome.

Perfectionism

This one is also a huge deterrent as well on your walk. This one will make you doubt yourself, your talents, and your abilities, until you eventually pull yourself away from your goals and dreams.

People most often get stuck right here. It’s actually fear in disguise. It’s the type of fear that tells you that whatever you’re doing isn’t “perfect” enough, or that you have to wait on the right resources, capital, or opportunities before you can do anything.

This right here takes many of us completely out of the game in every area of life. It is a very crippling spirit. It will rob you in so many ways if you don’t recognize it for what it is.

The way to overcome it is to stop second-guessing your progress. You may, for example, have written the first draft of a book. It’s ready to be edited and then published. You, however, got stuck on the editing part.

You keep going over the same obstacle over and over again, trying to make every word and every punctuation mark perfect. Before you know it, you get discouraged and abort the project completely, believing that what you had to begin with wasn’t good enough.

That’s how sneaky that spirit is, and knowing how it works, especially when you’re getting ready to do major things, is to let yourself know that you don’t need everything to be perfect to get started at anything. You just need to start and allow things to be refined as you move forward.

Perfectionism is the thief of opportunities.

People Pleasing

This is another crucial part that I don’t think people realize is present and have to be very aware of. This is a destiny killer at its best.

When you are so focused on the influence that others have on you that you can’t independently focus on your own goals and dreams, but have to always need the input of others or always need to please them instead of having your own independent functioning, you’re stepping into dangerous paths.

This is because you have given your freedom and autonomy to other people. Now, I’m not against counselling in certain areas of struggle or accountability. But heavily relying on others to get ahead in life is a defeated way to live.

For example, you want to branch into entrepreneurship for so many years, but you constantly keep running this idea to people who are so set on working for others as their form of job security.

What will they encourage you to do? They will tell you, as they are projecting their own fears on you, to give up on that idea or put it to the side because you have a million other things going on.

So you abort the very dream that you had in your heart, because you settled with the opinions of others, most times coming from their own fears or insecurities.

Always test the people you get the most feedback from. Make sure it’s coming from a good place and not necessarily from their own past failures.

This is important, because I have personally seen many people go in the opposite direction of what they truly knew deep down was their desired destiny.

This is also a destiny killer if not checked properly.

Discern the voices of influence in your life. See who is encouraging and more supportive of your dreams, and also see who is negative and pushing back against your dreams because of their own fears.

Then limit your interactions with them and continue on your journey of achieving the very dreams you know deep down are yours and yours alone to accomplish while here on the earth.

I hope that these 5 tips will help you to be more aware of how fear in different forms can abort your destiny if you allow it to take control of your life. The ones who prosper and are the most successful are the ones who work in the opposite direction of fear.

I wrote a book called A Balanced Life: Moving From a Dysfunctional Life to a Purposeful One. I do believe that we can create the lives that we want to live for ourselves in peace and balance.

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Also, for more finding balance and self-care-related blog posts, visit:

• Knowing When To Slow Down
• How To Create Healthy Boundaries
• Learning To Be At Rest
• When Life Challenges Your Faith
• Living Life In Freedom
• Being Intentional About Guarding Your Heart
• Learning To Let Go Of What Doesn’t Serve You
• Walking By Faith Each Day
• Finding Joy And Peace In Simplicity
• Finding Peace In Chaos
• Learning To Love Who You Are
• Living A Life Of Gratitude
• Balancing Motherhood and Purpose
• A Mom In Need Of A TIME-OUT
• Benefits Of Self-care As A Mom
• Overcoming The Hurdles And Struggles Of Motherhood
• Staying fit as a mom

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